(I started to write this at sea but continued on the train from Falmouth to London). Much of this is probably uninteresting to everyone but I, it’s more of a diary entry (and more personal than usual).
Every night at sea I do my four hour shift at the lookout and rudder. There is little to do aside from watching the endless sea and sky. When there are no clouds there are phenomenal views of the stars or the moon.
Thoughts tend to drift away into trivialities during these shifts. Some recurrent thoughts are however of a rather philosophical nature, such as: What is the meaning of life? What do I aim to achieve? How should I distribute my short time? When is the right time to settle down with a family? How can I improve? Greater minds than mine have struggled to answer these questions without much success; the suggested solutions are at least not very clear nor are they definite.
I don’t think we are here for any greater purpose, reproduction aside (and is that greatness?). It’s only a question of finding the best way to pass time. Best is relative, but I think one should aspire to contribute positively to make the world marginally better. Anything counts. This is why I am picky with regard to what I want to work with. Trading currency doesn’t cut it for me. Given my education I think that involvement in (Greenfield) renewable energy projects at some stage in the set-up might be my thing.
One of my great mind-bogglers the last few years has been my solitary roaming as I’m reaching up towards the thirties while my friends settle down. I didn’t feel ready for the 9-5 life when I finished my engineering studies and decided to do something different for a few years. I’ve done that now and I think the time for finding a place to live is coming. Stronger and stronger I feel the desire to have a family of my own, while at the same time it’s tempting to push it just another year since my liberties are so great now. Enter dilemma: Preferred lifestyle today compromises preferred future lifestyle. I’ve seen people pushing it and before you know it you are forty and alone. By the way, don’t get alone and lonely mixed up, as Helge Ingstad said after having spent 4 years in the Canadian wilderness: Loneliness, my friend, only occurs where there are humans. I read his tale about those days; the most astonishing and inspiring story of self-discipline, freedom, choice and chance. In some way I have done like him and always chosen to do what I have felt the most like.
I’ll try to make an effort to spend more time in the nature after returning home. Every single time I wake up to see the sunrise in pristine nature I greatly enjoy it, yet I seldom get my butt around to do it. Speaking of which, I started writing this at sea but now I’m on a train from Falmouth to London and the scenery is evergreen and beautiful.
I will also try to continue to abstain from TV life when I get back. In Nicaragua, during travels and in Barcelona I didn’t even once miss to have one. Unfortunately I know that if it’s there it’s just way to easy to turn it on, while not having one is slightly bothersome since it’s nice to watch occasional football matches and movies. From time to time I’ve been asked how I find so much time to read books; the answer might be that I chose not to watch the telly three hours a day. I spend enough time in front of the screen at work and should cut down on the surfing at home before I start watching another one. It’s important to remember that while it’s very easy and comfortable to lapse into slack pants and TV coma, it’s a choice. One can chose to do behave differently.
I played a few frames of snooker in Falmouth with Bjørn. What a great sport. If there was a decent place in Oslo and I had some friends who were interested I would make it my hobby on cold winter nights. In Falmouth I also enjoyed some very good local food and the lovely British pub culture and humor. That there is no food culture in this country is absolute rubbish.
Axana told me something a few weeks ago: That one of the things she liked about me was that I wasn’t full of prejudices. It was very nice to hear that. I try my very best and I think I have improved a lot just the last few years. It’s not easy and I think that some of my changed views owe to spending time with Jordi and Pedro, living in Bluefields and travelling extensively. But damn so hard it can be! A very recent example showing the difficulty: Upon learning that my captain was a stock broker I thought; that might be nice! After six weeks onboard and seeing that he lived up to many of the vices and typical stigmatizations for those of his occupation, its comprehensible that people lean on prejudices. Mind that herein lays the trap: Prejudices often arise because people generalize from a few of their single experiences and/or believe everything they are told.
I’m thinking that it would be very nice to have my family with Axana. She is very understanding and rarely intends to misunderstand. I think that I would give her big freedoms and that she would let me keep much of mine. Add that she is caring, a good mother and sheds drama to an extent I have not seen in any other woman I have known - and I couldn’t ask for much more. To the paragraph above: She killed a dogma herself, one I was often told while in blueEnergy: That it’s not possible to find decent women in Bluefields. I hope she can visit me soon. I miss her.
But alas! – The distance. I’m afraid that coming to me would be too difficult for her while thinking about a life in Nicaragua doesn’t fill me with a very positive feeling; I feel half there. And without having investigated I assume that anywhere else is probably impossible because of papers. Which leads me to another though that has occupied me: Where to search for work? On one side I would like to be closer to home and my grandfather etc, however continental life attracts me. Spain would be the most obvious alternative due to its proximity and at the same time southern European culture, but their dire financial state has effectively put that idea off. I’ve started to think that Brazil could be a good alternative, but it’s a bit far away. I bought a Learn Portuguese book in the Azores and realized it’s surprisingly simple. In any case it will be Oslo for now.
This is getting long, but it’s nice to sum up thoughts after 16 months abroad. The English countryside passing by lends a very good atmosphere to thinking. Just passed Plymouth.
With respect to the Norwegian terrorist case and court it suffices to say that I am very glad that I haven’t been and am not at home.
A recurrent advice I have gotten over the years is to spend more time with people I like and less with those that I don’t. The advice is very good. Luckily I have plenty of family and friends that I’m looking forward to spend my time with: Down-to-earth, interesting, open-minded and unsnobby people. Hope to get a long weekend with good friends at John’s cabin in Southern Norway this summer.
Went to pee. Few places offer worse light settings than train toilets and hairdressers.
Had a very nice night out yesterday with Bjørn, an older Swedish sailor and his one crewmember. On top of playing fantastic music and serving good ale, the people were worthy of a study. Few times I have seen a crowd with such a variety of dresses; it looked like the merger of a 80s- and a come-as-you-are party. People wore suits, leopard miniskirts, working jeans, tights, shorts, nicer dresses, training pants, flip flops, dress shoes etc. And no one seemed to care or even notice nor mind that we had one fifty and one sixty year old at our table while the average costumer was twenty-two. Wonderful!
I’m sad to say that I would never see that in my mother country. One of the things I’m not fond of back home is the conformist thinking and social pressure that has led to the ironing out of characters. And with the characters the clothes; most people buy their clothes from a handful of accepted brands presenting their all-too-similar collections four times as year. If you dress differently you are quickly labeled radical. I’m happy to have gained friends abroad that would stand out amidst my Norwegian friends. I’ll continue the rant about what I’m not looking forward too since I started – the sooner I finish the sooner I can move to something more positive. Well, I’m not looking forward to meet spoiled, arrogant, xenophobe, condescending, money centered, snobby people with flat personalities either. And there are many. I’m also not looking forward to not seeing people in the streets aside from weekends.
But oh! the things I do look forward to! All the friendly, informed, laughing, interesting and sporty people with interests. And there are many of them as well! And the food: Salmon, raspberries, blueberries, multer, Ridderost, cod, mackerel, lefser, rips, access to Italian ice cream and Spanish ham and French cheeses etc, strawberries, lamb, herbs, my mom’s dishes, bread!, Napoleonskake, Segimenn and I could go on forever. For several of the entries there I don’t know the English terms. What more? Seasons. Four distinct seasons. Gusty wind and horizontal rain and sun and snow and leaves changing colors. And I’m looking forward to meet friends and family and to sit in our garden and do nothing and to get a normal job and to go to Fyret with Thomas and Knut… and return there when the weather is cold and the fireplace is lit!
It stands ever clearer to me that money cannot be used as a measure to anything but, eh, amount of money. My parents have said that they always prioritized family time over extra earnings (implying more work hours) and I wholeheartedly agree with them that it’s the proper way to think. I don’t know where they have found the energy to make our home as nice as it is. If I ever deviate from their prioritization with my own kids please slap me in the face and let me know. It’s interesting to hear Pedro talk about his father who was never home and how he never wants to become like that. Myself, I’m not very ambitious. As long as I have a job that I enjoy it’s enough. CVs and network is utterly uninteresting.
My bank accounts are sad sights these days, but generally I’m not very often short on money. Avoiding drains like a car and cigarettes and spending excessive sums on clothes, the latest phone models and sporting gear that I never use, I have enough to eat well and to travel.
Another significant budget post during university years was parties and drinking. I’ve cut substantially down on that the last couple of years and don’t go out that frequent any more. Despite that my physical condition is not good. Little variation in the food in Nicaragua and lack of good places to exercise and a sport friendly climate means that I’ve lost muscles and weight and become thin. I didn’t have 8(?) kilos to loose in the first place. It’s not good and I will try to gain them back in the summer by doing sport and eating well. I want to feel full of energy again.
We’re approaching London which means closer to home. It’s a bit unreal and I’m unable to make concentrated thoughts about what I feel about the return. In any case it’s been a long travel and it will be very nice to finally arrive; stuff away my backpack, lean back in the chair until I can fall asleep in my own bed. God knows how many hours I travelled on buses, boat, planes and train the last 3 months.
I’m trying to think if there was anything else I wanted to write down about my main sentiments and thoughts as originally indicated at the top, but I think I have touched most of it. Affection for Axana, relief and anxiety and expectations with respect to getting home, intentions of spending time in the nature and with good company rather than falling apart in front of the television when I start working, look for a job doing something I like and don’t worry about money. I’m sure there are other things I could have written, but I’m starting to get unfocused and think I will call it a day.
This last day train ride has actually been one of the nicest stretches of travel I have done since I left Norway. My first stop was London and it will be my last. I think I have time for a bite before I go to the airport.
Have I changed since I left? Maybe a little bit. I’ve learned many things and some of the things I’ve seen, in Nicaragua in particular, have amplified my perspective. The difference between Monkey Point and English Harbor is so grotesque that I don’t even feel like thinking about it. Axana commented once that I had looked more sparkling on some pictures she had seen of me from Norway. I answered that it probably had more to do with the difference in time than space; the more one sees the more pensive one gets.